Evidence That It Works
A recent study found that pet peeves—or complaints about specific events—in romantic relationships were negatively related to a person’s well-being and relationship satisfaction. In contrast—and perhaps as an antidote to pet peeves—another study found that using gratitude to positively reframe a situation leads to fewer depressive symptoms.
Why Does It Matter?
Scientists suggest that complaining is a way to take responsibility off ourselves, providing the comforting response that we crave when we fail or are disappointed.
When students are faced with a difficult situation that they either have no control over or that may reflect badly on them, educators have a golden opportunity to help them change how they view the situation by reframing the situation in a more positive light.
This, in turn, may help to boost students’ positive emotions, helping them to put more effort into overcoming obstacles, engage in classroom activities more, and be less stressed at school.