Planning For It

When You Might Use This Practice

  • After receiving negative feedback
  • After a challenging encounter with a student, parent, colleague, or supervisor
  • After teaching a lesson that didn’t go so well

 

Time Required

  • ≤ 15 minutes

 

Materials

  • Writing materials

 

Learning Objective

You will:

  • Reflect and write about what is most important to you

 

Additional Supports

 

Additional Supports

 

SEL Competencies

  • Self-Awareness
  • Self-Management

How To Do It

Reflection Before the Practice

  • Set aside 10-15 minutes of uninterrupted time in a quiet space to complete the reflection.
  • Take a few deep breaths to center yourself.
  • Be kind and gentle to yourself as you work through the exercise, letting go of any stress or tension you might feel.

Instructions

  • This practice is meant to be done whenever you feel defensive or threatened, or are feeling stress.
  • The following is a list of different values, some of which may be important to you and some of which may not. Start by ranking them in order of their importance to you, from 1 to 11 (Note that these values are just a starting point. Feel free to add others that might not be listed here, such as spirituality or helping others.):
    • artistic skills/aesthetic appreciation
    • sense of humor
    • relations with friends/family
    • spontaneity/living life in the moment
    • social skills
    • athletics
    • musical ability/appreciation
    • physical attractiveness
    • creativity
    • business/managerial skills
    • romantic values
  • Then, write a brief account (one to three paragraphs) of why your #1 value is important to you, including a time when it played an important role in your life.

 

Source

Brandon Schmeichel, Ph.D., Texas A&M University

Reflection After the Practice

Was this reflection helpful? How do you feel after completing it? Did it put into perspective what is most important to you?

The Research Behind It

Evidence That It Works

A study found that when participants received negative feedback on an essay they wrote—a form of self-threatening information—their blood pressure increased. But it recovered more quickly after they wrote about why their top value was important to them, compared to writing about why other people might hold a particular value.

 

Why Does It Matter

In their lives at school, teachers and other school staff members often encounter threats to the self–from receiving negative feedback, to difficult interactions with students, parents, colleagues, and supervisors, to being excluded in a social situations, e.g., the staff lunchroom.

In these moments, it’s difficult to stay clear-headed, open-minded, and in control. We may get defensive or reactive, depriving ourselves of constructive lessons and harming our relationships with others.

Reflecting on what matters most may help us move beyond narrow self-image concerns. It can remind us of the other resources we have in our lives: how strong and capable we are, or how much support we receive from others. We start to realize that there’s something we care about–whether it’s cultivating relationships or creativity–that matters more to us than whatever difficulty we’re experiencing in the moment.

Once we gain this broader perspective, we become more open to hearing negative feedback or potentially scary but useful information. We can take a wiser and more long-term perspective instead of getting bogged down in momentary negative feelings.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson
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